Personal Development and Writer Coaching with Dave Fox

My Life Coaching Style and Philosophy

 

We live in a world that likes to tell us who we should be, rather than encouraging us to be who we truly are.

I’m on a mission to change that.

 

I strive to create a safe, encouraging, non-judgmental, and confidential environment for people to explore their true selves. I’m not here to judge. On the contrary, I love helping people free themselves from their own negative self-judgments. When we learn how to pursue a life that’s authentic to our passions and values, a space opens up that enables us to achieve great things.

When you hire me as your coach, I become your accomplice in that pursuit. The process is often curious and playful. At times, though, it requires taking a hard look at limiting beliefs, and confronting that inner-bully who says, “You can’t, shouldn’t, or don’t deserve to do this.” The end result is empowering, but when the process feels intense, I’m here to talk you through those moments.

One of the reasons so many friends encouraged me to go into coaching was my natural sense of empathy. Ever since I was a child, I’ve had a natural ability to tune into people’s emotions and help them feel safe to talk about themselves. I understand that for some, the self-exploration that comes with coaching is highly personal. I’m honored that people trust me in these moments.

Encouragement, respect, acceptance, and absolute confidentiality are the cornerstones of how I coach.

 

Client-Centered Coaching

People seek coaching because they want something in their lives to be different. It might be a lifestyle change, a creative or career goal, a shift to a happier mood, or a quest for productivity or personal clarity. My role as your coach is to guide you through that process – to help you determine where you want to go and the best way for you to get there. Together, we’ll create a realistic and achievable plan, and fine-tune that plan as your journey evolves.

The tricky thing about change is we don’t all learn in the same way. Our personalities, life experiences, interests, and individual brain chemistry all affect our paths to happiness and success. What works for one person doesn’t work for everyone. That’s why self-help books aren’t always effective. The authors write about what works for them, but if you don’t think the way they do, their strategies might not be best for you.

I don’t believe in cookie-cutter formulas. If you’ve been taught all your life about ways you should do things, and those ways haven’t been working, then maybe it’s time to nudge those ideas aside to make room for different, more creative approaches that are better suited to your personality. It’s exciting for me to help clients discover new ways of thinking – new ways of approaching and pursuing their goals and emotions that seem less intimidating, more fun, and more doable than what they’ve tried in the past.

Personal growth requires trial and error. People often fail to take action because they’re afraid of false starts and missteps – but false starts and missteps are necessary aspects of personal growth. When we avoid them, we stagnate. Personal growth can also require stepping outside of our comfort zones, and that can feel … well … uncomfortable. I get that. That’s why I approach every client not only with encouragement and research-based guidance, but also with empathy and respect for who they uniquely are, and with a sincere desire to help them live a more fulfilling and exciting life.

 

Coaching Techniques

Depending on my clients’ personalities, interests, and goals, I use several different coaching methods:

Cognitive Behavioral Coaching focuses on the relationship between our experiences, thoughts, and emotions: Something happens. We interpret the event and create a story based on that interpretation. That story then sparks an emotion – positive or negative. Through Cognitive Behavioral Coaching, I help clients examine their situations, their interpretations of those situations, and their resulting emotional responses. They learn to shape their responses into constructive ways of thinking that increase happiness and confidence, and reduce anxiety.

Co-Active Coaching is based on the philosophy that coaches don’t have the answers. We have the questions with which to effectively guide our clients. Clients have the power to come up with their own answers. This creates a sense that you are fully in control of your own decisions and actions. Co-active coaching takes a holistic approach. Various aspects of our lives, such as our personal relationships, career, finances, and leisure time, are intertwined. They all influence our mindset and personal growth. This approach to coaching examines the big picture and then zooms in on specific action plans.

Goal Setting and Accountability Coaching is for people who are pursuing a creative project, a career change, or a lifestyle adjustment, such as breaking a bad habit, starting a good one, or even something like figuring out how to travel more. I’ve done extensive coursework in why some people achieve their goals while others do not. The reason usually has little to do with skills or abilities. Instead, it’s about how they define their goals, map out a path to achieve those goals, and challenge and overcome self-doubt along the way.

Journal Coaching incorporates personal journaling into the coaching process. In my book, Globejotting: How to Write Extraordinary Travel Journals, I teach a technique I call “Speed Journaling” to help people write about their travel experiences. Over time, I’ve discovered speed journaling is also super effective when we’re not traveling – as a tool for exploring and understanding our emotions and behaviors. It’s an almost magical way of probing beneath the surface of our conscious minds to understand ourselves on a deeper level. Once we bring our “hidden” thoughts to the surface, they become easier to explore and work with.

You do NOT need to be a “good writer” to benefit from journal coaching! Also, you never have to share your journals with me or anyone else unless you choose to. I’ll guide you through the journaling process. That process will bring you more clarity, which we can then discuss in whatever ways you are comfortable.

 

Which Technique is Best for You?

It might be one of the techniques above or a combination of several, but you don’t need to worry about that right now. That’s what I’m here for. Often, people come into a first session not sure where to begin or what exactly it is that they need. If you’re feeling stuck, I’ll help get you unstuck. Together, we’ll get things rolling so you can live the life you’re meant to live.

People often fail to pursue a goal or make a change because they feel overwhelmed by what’s ahead and they’re afraid to take the first step. But that first step is usually easier than they realize. Are you ready to take an easy first step? You can schedule your first session right now with my online appointment calendar. Just click the link below and take your first step today.

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